Elisabeth Bertelkamp

Born in Amsterdam, Netherlands on 8 January 1924
Passed away in Leichhardt N.S.W., Australia on 2 December 2015
Late of Sydney and Gold Coast, Australia
Aged 91 years
Elisabeth (Bep) Bertelkamp:
Beloved wife of the late Gerard Bertelkamp (1923-2000), mother of Gerard (Beeb) Bertelkamp and Elly Kennedy. Mother-in-law of Stewart Kennedy, Donna Bertelkamp. Grandmother (Oma) of Hannah Yeomans, Emilia Bertelkamp, Lauren Kennedy, Louise Kennedy. Great-Grandmother of Ashton Yeomans and post 2015: Brody Yeomans.
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Gerardje (Beeb), Elisabeth (Bep) and Elly. The Marion 2012 Mum & Dad USA 1992 The Marion Ball 2015 Oma's 90th 2013 Manly 2012 Oma & Elly Christmas 2012
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Mum. Today, your birthday, makes the fourth birthday we haven’t had you with us. You would have been 95.
Your ashes are still with me. Some I scattered on the Gold Coast - at The Domain’s little bus stop near your Magnolia Close unit, where you used to wave me goodbye when the airport transport van picked me up for my return flights to Sydney. There were countless visits there when together we’d shop for clothes, I’d cook, repair things, clean, and drive you in your little Ford Festiva wherever you needed to go. I liked those visits, just the two of us.
I also scattered some ashes in Helen Park opposite your first house in Queensland in Breaker Street, Main Beach - that’s where we had scattered Dad’s ashes together 18 years ago. I thought in some way you would like that, and that Dad would like it too.
In a few months I will be in Amsterdam and plan to scatter ashes there as well - at the Noordemarkt where so many happy memories of your childhood were recalled to us. And also the Wittenkade where you were born, as well as the Eikenweg where we lived before migrating to Australia.
The remaining ashes will go to Adelaide - Harvey Avenue Netley and Hillcrest Drive, Eden Hills, both homes built by Dad.
Your ashes will travel, the very thing you loved to do. I hope you’re travelling well in Heaven Mum. I love you. xxxx
Elly Kennedy gave a flower for Elisabeth Bertelkamp

Mum, 2nd December 2018 and it’s the third anniversary since you passed away at The Marion in Leichhardt. Your relocation from the Gold Coast to Sydney in February 2012 was necessitated by your health and wellbeing being compromised by your Diabetes and Dementia. My regular Queensland visits and the care that The Domain Retirement Village had provided, were not enough to keep you safe, well fed and medications monitored at home without extra support. You stubbornly refused any help, except from me. There were several incidents that put you in hospital - I remember when during your recovery at the Allamanda Hospital in Southport, you told me “the food and staff are very good at this place, you know”, like it was a hotel, you quite enjoyed the service. When we flew to Sydney together where I had secured a room at The Marion aged care facility, you really enjoyed the Qantas flight, having always loved to travel. You didn’t understand you were leaving Queensland for good, but you seemed to know you were going to live in Sydney near me. I had to sleep on a stretcher in your room on the first night, you were confused and frightened. Despite your fearless independence throughout your whole life, you were always afraid of the dark. It was difficult for you, and for me, during the next three years. But the caring environment at The Marion provided all that was needed for you to be safe, healthy and content and I think you sensed that emotionally if not mentally. I hope so.
I think of these things often, wondering if I could have done better by you, wishing you hadn’t had to grow old with Dementia. Yet your memories of your childhood in Holland were often recalled in your repetitive conversations - you laughed out loud at the memory of the mischief you and Marie would get up to as little girls playing in the Noordemarkt. This would make me laugh too, and I was happy for you. Marie is still living in Zaandam, she is 97 now and has survived the four Deubel brothers and sisters and their partners. Three years on, I hope the memories continue Mum, mine will of you and of Dad. And I hope you have a chuckle in Heaven now and then. Love you always, El xx
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Gerardje (Beeb), Elisabeth (Bep) and Elly.
  • Beeb Birtles: Remembering you, Mum, on the third year of your passing. I think about you often. You were a wonderful mother, guiding me through my life. Love from Beeb.
    • 1 month ago
Hi Mum, I'm thinking of you today on Mother's Day. The other day I remembered how when I was a young boy I would catch the bus into the city and walk to John Martin's and buy you aprons for Mother's Day. And you wore them every night when we would do the dishes. A memory I'll never forget because that's where I started harmonising with you. I love you and miss you.
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Happy Mother’s Day Mum. 2018 marks the 3rd mother’s day without you, so it’s a memory I’ll share instead. Living interstate and overseas from you made it difficult to enjoy a day like this together. But something I know you always looked out for was a card from Beeb. And he always remembered even though the Australian Mothers Day falls on a different date in the USA. And he always delivered some loving words that you would re-read several times. Well of course he can’t send you a card now but he did still remember and sent me a Mother’s Day wish instead. And I know it’s because he’s thinking of you too. As am I. Love you, Rest In Peace Mum xxxx
Elly Kennedy gave a flower for Elisabeth Bertelkamp
Mum,
Happy Birthday on what would have been your 94th. Missing you. And remembering you. Yesterday would have been the 70th anniversary of your and Dad's marriage too. But all these 'would haves' are not the same as having you both here. So be peaceful and content in Heaven and know we are thinking of you. Love you, El xxxx
Elly Kennedy gave a flower for Elisabeth Bertelkamp

Mum its 2nd December 2017, two years now since you left us and I still well with tears when I write here. One month shy of 92 is not a bad number of years on earth, I wish Dad had done better than his 77 years.
It's the last decade of your life that stays in my mind, the decline of your independence as Dementia crept in. I think of the quality time that was denied to us, all the challenges you threw at me .. the first years I didn't even know it was your mind playing havoc with your personality. Still, we spent a lot of time together one way or another and I know you were happy that I was there.
Beeb was in Australia just last week for the launch of his Memoirs and for a lifetime South Australian music award. He performed in Adelaide and blew everyone away, you would have loved it and been so proud of him as you and Dad always were. Between the two of us we will keep The Bertelkamp memories alive for you and for Dad.
Love you always, forever. Elly xxxx
Elly Kennedy lit a candle for Elisabeth Bertelkamp
A second Mother's Day without you and still missing you, Mum. Wondering when this empty feeling of you not being here, not looking like you did in your Heaven Address photo, and wishing you never had to go through those last years of Dementia, will ever go away. I need to focus on your good years of life and you had many. So that's what I celebrate for you today. Love you and hope you're at peace. El xx
Elly Kennedy lit a candle for Elisabeth Bertelkamp
You would have been 93 today, Mum. Happy Birthday to you in heaven. You are always still on my heart and mind. I'm so grateful for the mother you were to me and how I was raised with good morals and values. I hope I have instilled those things in my own children. And so on this day I will raise a glass to your life and legacy. Happy, Happy Birthday Mum!
Beeb Birtles gave a flower for Elisabeth Bertelkamp
Mum, today would have been your 93rd birthday. I woke early and thought about you again. It is 5.15am and the trees across the road look very serene. I remember how mesmerised you were by the beauty of a tree. I wonder if you can still enjoy them now.
It's kind of weird "speaking" to you via this memorial on HeavenAddress (Louise said it's like Facebook for the dead). Somehow it helps for me to be able to verbalise a message to you this way, to document my thoughts on your birthday and other days. I miss you, and I miss Dad.
93 is a grand age and in some ways I am grateful you are not here to bear the indignations of the Dementia that robbed your mind of your final years with us. Sometimes I feel your spirit, as if to remind me that I can't forget you. I won't. I still worry about you, hope that you are not alone, and that you are not scared.
The Sydney sun is rising over those trees now, a beautiful day for your birthday Mum. I so wish I could see you enjoying this view with me. Know that we are all remembering you and wishing you much love on this special day. Rest peacefully Mum. I love you. Elly xxxxxx
Elly Kennedy gave a flower for Elisabeth Bertelkamp